Life in the London household is bitter-sweet right now. We’ve got to the point where we are forcing Little London to ditch the dummy.
It’s sweet because so far it’s actually gone ok (no tears or tantrums), but a bit bitter because we’ve substituted one bad habit for another *slaps forehead* (more on that later).
Anyone with a child that uses a dummy knows it’s brings great comfort. When my Son is ill I relent and let him have his dummy more than I usually would. But on a typical day Little London only ever gets his dummy when he’s due a nap or ready for bed.
During our holiday post-Christmas, Little London finally managed to give his dummy a name. “Dub dub.”
This meant I was no longer in control of his dummy, he’d demand his dub dub and scream if we didn’t give it to him, knowing full well that we were withholding his prized possession.
We made the excuse that while travelling everything isn’t really scheduled like it is at home, so the dub dub came out more often than was necessary.
Nap times were all over the place, and Little London would happily request to sit in his pram with his dub dub so he could see and watch everything going on, and when it all got too much he’d fall asleep.
Of course this led to dub dub being used pretty much constantly, unless I managed to quickly swipe it from his mouth when he was unaware. Yes, even when he wasn’t sleeping he’d be demanding his dub dub. And throwing tantrums if he didn’t get his way.
For us though we had a turning point. Little London’s dummy became an issue when it started to impact on his speech. He’d point out aeroplanes, but when saying the word he’d have his tongue out of his mouth as if that was the correct way to say it.
So on return, we decided to just ditch the dummy. We simply haven’t given it to him.
Because the routine here is so different to what we’ve had the last two weeks, Little London hasn’t actually noticed that he hasn’t had his dummy. And I suppose that would be the one bit of advice I could give, giving them a different routine.
He’s requested it perhaps once in the last two days, to which I just replied ‘no dub dub’ and offered him something else to take his mind off it.
I’m the one that notices the dummy more than him at the moment. For the past two hours, my tired baby has been sat bolt upright in his cot trying to drift off to sleep. But without the comfort of his dummy he’s struggling to just get comfortable. But I’m not giving in. He has to learn to settle without a dummy- he’s not crying, he’s just really really tired.
So how are we managing to keep his tantrums at bay during this period?
Like I said earlier we’ve substituted one bad habit for another.
Firstly, milk is on tap at night-time. Last night I think he had around 3 bottles of milk. When he wakes up his immediate reaction is to search for something to suck, so we’ve replaced his dummy with a bottle which hopefully we can bring down in volume over time. It’s currently doing the trick, but we did have a nappy leak in the night…
The other bad habit we’ve been allowing him to get away with is using his Kindle Fire when nodding off to sleep. Again it works by just encouraging his attention else where, but I know that once we’ve managed to give up the dub dub for good we’re going to struggle with taking away the request for “tee vee.”
Oh well, I’m not super mum, I can only manage one bad habit at a time. But currently this is working for us when it comes to ditching the dummy. His other bad habits can wait their turn and be dealt with in an orderly fashion of necessity 😉
How did you ditch the dummy? Or any other bad habit?
(Update: Last night he only needed one and a half milk bottles, and he was so tired from refusing his day time nap he fell straight to sleep without requesting his Kindle… there’s hope!)